Sunday, March 20, 2011

21.3.2011



Are you a housewife in this modern world?
“I would be content being a housewife if I could find the kind of man who wouldn't treat me like one”
(Terry McMillan)

I'm not too sure how to write this without anyone reading it thinking i'm a whinger or a complete pushover. Maybe I am, truthfully sometimes I ask myself these things.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years, which is the longest relationship i've ever being in. He is a lovely man and would more than likely die for me (Yes, that dedicated!). We have pet names for each other, I call him Silver, he calls me Sweet Pea. We probably tell each other a million times a day that we love each other.
So what's my problem?
He doesn't do any cleaning, washing, helping me out at all! I believe in the past year that we've started living together he has made the bed once! Just once! He does the dishes maybe once a month, his idea of making dinner is just buying hungry jacks or mcdonalds or pizza.
I'm not asking him to do this stuff everyday, i'm quiet happy to do it the majority of the time but I work 3-4 days a week so a break would be a godsend once in a while. Even on the days i'm not at work, i'm still working. Washing his clothes, making him dinner, making him lunch for work, vacumming, doing his dishes, basically all in all keeping him happy while I struggle to look after myself.

The question i'm sending out is how does your boyfriend/girlfriend help you out? If they help you out at all? What do you think I should do in this situation?
I've even had a coworker suggest I use sex as a reward, if he physically makes dinner, or does something nice for me than I should reward him with sex. Do you as a female use your sexuality to get what you want?


3 comments:

  1. I broke up with a guy like that 2 years ago. Sex as a reward rarely works and the way I see it why should you trade sex for him to do an equal share of the work? My current boyfriend is great. He cooks, cleans, sews etc and ive never had to kick up a fuss for him to do his equal share (at the moment hes probably doing more because Im at uni full time).Unfortunately I cant offer solutions because I never could get my ex to act differently. I would at least stop doing his dishes/washing his clothes etc just to demonstrate how much you do in terms of housework (thats if you havent tried talking to him of course)
    Good luck :)

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  2. I feel like I'm bragging a bit here but my bf is wonderful! He cleans even when I don't ask him to, and fusses me and makes me dinner. I wonder if he'll be as great once we've been together 2 years!x

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  3. I'm sure your co-worker meant well, but using sex as a reward is probably the worst thing that you can do to get what you want. If he starts to associate that the only time he'll get sex is if he cleans then sex will quickly become a chore, too... or he'll find somewhere else to get it.

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